I’m always curious about articles that claim to be debunking commonly held myths. My first question is always, ‘how many people actually believe these myths’? Anyway, that’s me and how my mind works. Always questioning.
OK – before I get into the rest of the post I just need to rant for a second about the article. It’s one of those posts where you have to click through to see each myth seperately on it’s own page. I hate when sites do that. Normally I just click away to another article but I was curious about this one. C’mon YourTango, you’re classier than that. Leave that nonsense to AskMen. Just give us the list on one goddamn page.
Alright, rant over. Now, so that you don’t have to waste your time clicking through, here’s their list:
- A Happy Marriage Means You Won’t Be Tempted
- Sex Starts When The Man Gets An Erection
- The Best Sex Is Spontaneous
- The Best Sex Occurs When The Man Takes The Lead
- Good Sex Can Make Up For Bad Communication
- Men Want More Sex Than Women Do
- Sex With The Same Person Gets Boring
They elaborate on each point and so if you’re interested, you should read it.
So, how commonly held are these beliefs? Really, I’m asking. Do lots of people really believe that good sex can make up for bad communication or that a happy marriage means you won’t be tempted? Do the majority of men believe these things? I have lots of guy friends and I’ve never specifically asked them about any of this but I can infer from our conversations on similar topics that they don’t.
Of course, the one that I find most interesting is number 6. I’ve certainly read things in men’s mags that make reference to the idea that men want it more than women. But I’ve never had a relationship in which this was the case (then again, I’m a freak of nature or something). Seriously, though, in most of the cases I know of where there was one person who wanted much more sex than the other, it was the woman doing the wanting. And the not getting.
Anyway, I could see how a blind belief in any of these things could be hazardous to a relationship/marriage. But then, I tend to believe that anyone who thinks there’s a “right way” and a “wrong way” for relationships to work will end up getting frustrated.
Tags: communication, good sex, marriage, myths, sex, YourTango