I was reading this post in Lemondrop called Men Agree on What’s Attractive, Women Don’t (don’t ask me why, I skim through all kinds of nonsense in an average day). It seems that there’s lots of consensus among men about what they find attractive but not so much among women.
OK. I’ll buy that.
Anyway, here’s the part of the article I found interesting. This is the closing paragraph: “On the other hand, some women gave high attractiveness ratings to the men other women said were not attractive at all. We guess that’s why you see so many hot chicks with ugly boyfriends and never see it the other way around.” (I’ve added the underlining.)
Really? They think the reason we see so many hot chicks with ugly boyfriends and never see it the other way around is because women don’t all agree on what’s attractive? Um, no. I don’t think so. I have a couple of personal theories as to why that’s such a common occurrence and that’s not either of them.
Now, I’ve actually been thinking about the hot chicks with ugly boyfriends phenoma for years. Ever since I first moved to Manhattan in my early 20s and one of my first bosses was this totally beautiful woman with a completely dumpy husband. Once I noticed them and started to think, how’d that happen?, I started to notice lots of similar couples. And in NYC there are lots and lots of similar couples.
So here are my theories:
Theory #1: The hot chick was the type of woman who found financial security a lot more attractive than actual physical attractiveness. There are several studies that claim that women seek partners who are financially stable over all other traits. And it’s certainly no surprise that some women choose to marry for money. And I’m not judging them.
Theory #2: The hot chick got to a place (probably in her 30s) where she realized her time was running out and she needed to settle. The ugly guy was so struck by his luck at getting the hot chick that he proposed quickly.
These are my theories. I’m sure there are many other ways of looking at it, many other possible truths. And I’m sure that lots of those couple are deeply in love. But I also know that I’ve never seen a really great looking guy with an ugly wife. Never.