This seems to be the week that everyone’s writing about texting and dating. Match.com has an article that gives an overview of “High-Tech Dating” on their Happen site (it’s pretty wish-wishy, but it’s Match.com). And SingleWomenRule.com has a post called To Text or Not To Text: Dating Rules for a New World which starts with the line, “Sometimes I feel like texting, instant messaging and email are absolutely no good for dating.” That’s a sentiment I can totally get with.
YourTango went to the texting and dating extreme and published 10 Rules for Texting and Dating (strangely there are only 9 rules on the list). I was excited when I saw the title to this article and assumed that I’d love the post. There are great bits there, but it’s a bit on the long-winded side for my taste. I feel like the author saved the best part for last, her #9, “Asking for Dates by Text is a No-No. Texting to set-up a date is bogus! Have the courage to speak up and risk rejection like a big boy or girl.”
I’ve broken this rule many times myself, though only with a guy I’ve already gone out with. I’ve asked for 3rd or 4th dates via text, a fact that I’m ashamed of. And I admit that a pretty big percentage of the guys I date have asked me out via text. At least 40%. And I hate it and want it to end. I’m seriously considering telling guys that I don’t/won’t text and date. That texts are for updates and flirting, sure, but not for real communication or asking me out.
What do you think, am I being silly (in this)? Is asking for dates via text a no-no?
- Yes. If someone wants to ask a person out they should pick up the phone. (27 votes)
- No. Text is a perfectly acceptable way to ask a person out. (12 votes)
- It depends on the situation. For first dates it’s unacceptable. After that it’s fine. (40 votes)
- Other (please explain in the comments) (0 votes)
Tags: first date, Match, poll, shy, SingleWomenRule.com, YourTango