I’m not a big fan of winks.
For those of you who don’t speak online dating, members of any given site can wink at one another. A wink is a low commitment way of telling someone you’re interested. They’re always free (some sites charge per message) and require very little effort. All you need to do is click a little button, as opposed to sending a message which requires a person to think about what they want to say and then write a coherent message.
I’m not violently opposed to winks and I will respond to them if someone’s profile seems interesting. But I think they’re lazy and, in general, make a poor first impression.
Anyway, I was just catching up with my online dating accounts and noticed a wink from a person who looked vaguely familiar. So I clicked on the profile and started to read through it.
He looked familiar because we’d already gone out. Twice. It was the Tall man from November. And after the second date (which was mindnumbingly dull) I told him I wasn’t interested. So now, 7 months later, he’s winking at me?
There are a couple of possible explanations for this. 1) He’s forgotten all about those dates in November (that’s soooo pathetic). 2) He remembers those dates fondly and would like to try for a third.
Assuming it’s the latter of these two possibilities, why would he choose to wink at me? What would possess him? He could’ve taken two minutes to write a short email saying he’d like to go out again and see if maybe this time we have a bit more chemistry. Who knows, given my current track record, I might’ve said yes. But no, he winked.
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