I’ve never actually taken direct quotes from a real guy’s email and used it here without his permission (the Ex Files was done with M’s permission, which in hindsight was seriously fucked up). But I just can’t resist. This is too much, too ridiculous, IMO.
If I meet a guy online and he asks me out and I say yes, he’ll almost always ask me where I live/where would it be convenient for us to meet. I’ll tell him my neighborhood and then say that I’m open to meeting anywhere. This is true, I have no issues with traveling all over the city for dates. Well, last week I had some guy take that info and then ask me to meet him at a bar right downstairs from his apartment. Right downstairs. It took me over 45 minutes to get there and it was raining (OK, the rain wasn’t his fault).
And then, today I received an email from a guy I’ve been chatting with. We’ve already discussed our respective neighborhoods. He lives in Manhattan, but all the way downtown in Battery Park City. I do not live downtown. I haven’t yet agreed to meet him for a drink. Here is his super-suave ask, “Would you like to meet for a drink sometime? I’m downtown, but happy to meet somewhere in Tribeca, SoHo, East or West Village.” So, in other words, I’d like to meet you for a drink, but I’m only willing to travel to neighborhoods that are within 15-20 minutes of where I live.
Now, he could have just said, “I’d love to meet you for a drink, how about…” and then suggest a place that happened to be convenient for him. And if he did that and it was a cool place I wouldn’t have cared if I had to travel further than him. But there’s just something about this email that really pisses me off. Maybe it’s because of the guy last week who couldn’t be bothered to leave his block.
Anyway, it pissed me off and I really don’t think I’m going to accept his offer. I have a 1st date tomorrow and two dates Saturday (one 1st and one 2nd) and another 1st maybe on Sunday too. I have some other things I have to do on Sunday so maybe not. I guess what I’m trying to say is that if this guy’s message is that I should be grateful that he’s asking me out, he’s got the wrong girl.
Tags: first date, second date