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It’s Always Trial and Error

As I mentioned in my earlier post, the is back in town and so I’m in a significantly better mood.

Just about every time I mention the fuckbuddy, I’m peppered with questions about the whole fb deal.  You know, “how does a girl get herself a fuckbuddy” and “how do you keep yourself from getting emotionally attached to a fb”.

Well, I’ve been working on (that’s a lie, I’ve been thinking about but have been too busy to sit down and finish writing) a longer piece about shopping for a fuckbuddy.  I’m hoping to have it published someplace else, as it’s a little too long for the blog.

What I can say now, though, is that finding a fuckbuddy, for me, wasn’t all that different than dating.  I stated my intention up front, which was to find someone for a strictly NSA situation and then met a bunch of guys until I met someone who fit.  And just like dating, there was a lot of trial and error.  And trial and error (sorrry, but there was).  Because just like with dating, I was looking for someone who wanted exactly what I wanted.  To not date, but to just get together when it was convenient and have .

Anyway, it actually took a while before I fell into a good situation.   And there’s never really been any risk of us becoming emotionally involved because there just isn’t that much to our relationships that doesn’t involve sex.  All of our communications are about sex or scheduling a time to get together to have sex.  And we never go out.  We just, well.. I think you get the idea.


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  1. Anonymous says:

    Sounds like you just slept with a lot of guys until you found one who did what you wanted. Just slutty.

  2. Simone Grant says:

    It was little bit more complicated than that. But then, maybe it wasn’t. And yeah, it was a little “slutty”. So what?

  3. Onely says:

    I don’t have a problem with the FB concept, but I think we need to come up with a new, less crass-sounding (IMO) label for it. Purely Physical Partner? PPP? “I’m off to meet my triple-P.” OK well hopefully other people with better ideas will weigh in on this. = )

    Christina

  4. fervids_ls says:

    You can try with Free Local Personals for Sexy Adult Dating.. Sometimes it is hard to decide even after several physical dates whether the man is a real man or not…It also doesn’t mean that he is a man only in bed…

  5. Simone Grant says:

    -Onely
    Thank you for making me giggle. I’m don’t really have an issue with the name (but then I also don’t mind being called a slut – I just think it’s silly). But I like your idea – triple P.
    -fervids_ls
    Welcome to the blog. Yeah, there are lots of places online to meet someone, and it takes a few real world meeting to assess if it’s going to work. Not sure what your last comment means?