Early Next Week?
I’m going to be sitting home tonight. Or maybe not. Maybe I’ll head out and do something with a friend. What I won’t be is out on a date.
Even though I thought I had one for tonight. Or maybe it was last night?
Late last week I received a text from the guy I went out with a couple of days earlier but wasn’t sure about (we had fun, but I was thinking he wasn’t a good match). He said/wrote that he enjoyed meeting me and wanted to take me to dinner “early next week”. I didn’t reply right away. I’m not a big fan of texts and don’t tend to jump to attention when I receive them from men. Plus, I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do (go or not go, I was still on the fence).
About a half hour later I received the same message in an email (which I prefer). And I decided that sure, why not. So I replied that, yes, I’d like to go to dinner with him “early next week”. He replied wih a simple, “great” or something like that. No plans. That was Friday. And this is Tuesday. I have not contacted him and he has not contacted me.
I’m annoyed because I left last night and tonight open for him, as I wasn’t sure when we’d be going out. And now, if I were to hear from him, as far as I’m concerned it’s too late. Sorry, but it is. Call me rigid, but that’s just the way I am.
That’s cool. I have several other dates this week + the fb is back in town. Who needs that guy?
Tags: Dating update, fuckbuddy, texts
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No kidding. Lame. Who says “early next week” on a Friday anyway? Seems like a major case of wishy-washiness.
Sounds like he just wanted to hear that you would go out with him again.
That sucks! Sadly, I’ve had that happen many times myself, and I think it’s a casualty of online dating. It’s just too damn easy for them to hide out and/or go away. Pansies!
WTF. Pick a date dude!
You folks crack me up with all the tea leave reading. How about responding with “I’m only free Tuesday, does that work? Let me know because I may have something else that night.” That way you can pin him down and also show that you have a full calendar. Then there’s no more worrying about what his intention is. You’ve made it into a simple yes/no with the default being no.
-bobmatnyc
Wishy washy? Yeah. Probably. And rude.
-Anonymous
I’d buy that. Maybe just wanted the external validation. But then why text and email?
-Miss Pink Slip
It does suck and it’s really silly. Especially as this is the guy who disappeared and then reappeared as enthusiastic as a puppy dog. Dude, if you’re not interested then just don’t ask.
-OpinionatedGift
WTF? – exactly
-drumdance
That could have been a good strategy to nail him down. The next time a guy gives me a really flaky invite, I’ll consider doing that. In this case, I wasn’t all that sure I wanted to see him again, and so he’s made it a lot easier for me. I don’t.