So my phone rang at 7:45 tonight. It was the guy I thought I had a date with tonight (or last night). I didn’t answer.
The message he left me was kinda funny. He was upbeat and enthusiastic and said how much he was looking forward to our next date. And he wanted to know if I was available tomorrow or Friday or Saturday and then rattled off a list of things we could do.
No mention of the fact that he’d texted and emailed a similar message last week and that we had tentative plans for “early this week”. No apology for blowing me off, or flaking out. He just acted like it never happened.
I wish I could say I’d never seen a guy do something like that before, but I have. Many times. He’s hoping I’ll give him a pass and overlook it. Not say anything and just play along. Because I like him so much or am so desperate to have a guy in my life. Um, sorry. No.
I haven’t replied. I’m planning on sending him a polite no thank you email tomorrow.
And then, 15 minutes later I get a text from the guy I had the really awesome date with last week. We still don’t have plans for our second date. We’ve gone back and forth with several days/times, but keep coming up against scheduling problems. He was texting just to say hi. I thought it was sweet and replied with my one pleasantries.
Then, I got a text from him 20 minutes later. He was locked out of his apartment.
So, I was supposed to do what? Invite him over to my place? Suggest we get together tonight (which I might have been up for, actually, if he just came out and said, “let’s get together tonight”)? He asked what I was up to and I told him I was finishing a project. Which was the truth. We texted back and forth for a few minutes until I said I really needed to go focus.
So we left it that we’d talk and figure out a time to get together.
These are grown men. Guys in their 40s. Men who’ve travelled the world. Started their own businesses. And they’re acting like children. And sadly I see this kind of stuff all the time. What gives?
Tags: Dating update, texts