My regular readers know that sometimes people will give me ideas for things to write about. I keep those ideas in a “good idea file” and get to them when I can.
One of these was to write a rebuttal to a very silly article in AskMen.com (are there articles in AskMen that aren’t very silly?) about cuddling. I wonder about the women who write for them. They have a couple who write the “single girl” articles. Maybe they’re perfectly good writers and they know they’re churning out nonsense? Or maybe they’re morons?
Anyway, the premise of the article is that all women love to cuddle and that men don’t understand our need for cuddle time. Which, I know from personal experience is a load of crap. Sure there’s some science behind why cuddling is important – for PEOPLE. For people who want to bond. But women don’t necessarily want to cuddle with every guy they’re with. I know I don’t (I’d rather have more sex, quite frankly). And I know I’m not alone here.
And, I know a lot of guys who are seriously into cuddling. Way more than I am. I can think of a couple of exes who’d squash me with their need to constantly hug and hold.
OK, let’s be honest here. My issue really isn’t with this particular article (although it’s totally full of shit). It’s the ridiculous dichotomy that AskMen tries to draw with every Dating & Sex post – men are normal; women are these scary, foreign creatures who behave oddly and we’ll strive to understand and humor them. It’s not helpful. Not only that, but I fear the guys who are actually clueless enough to turn to AskMen for advice. Lord help their future girlfriends.
Tags: askmen.com, cuddling