Earlier today I was working on this article, and the premise of it was that it was important to know what you wanted in a guy.
Yeah, I realise that not everyone feels that way. That a lot of people think that it’s good to be open to whoever happens to cross your path. And that maybe the fact that I’ve been kind of focused on the kind of person I want to meet and the kind of relationship I’d like to have is a part of the problem.
Anyway, I was working with this metaphor: When I go grocery shopping, I have to go with a list. Otherwise, I wander aimlessly through the aisles putting everything that looks good in my cart. By the time to get to the cashier I have an overflowing cart. But when I get home I realize that I didn’t get any of the things I really needed. No staples, nothing nourishing.
It’s a cute little metaphor. I totally do need to go shopping with a list, otherwise I end up charging hundreds of dollars of food that will only go bad in my fridge. But I don’t feel comfortable saying that I know that this is the right way to find a guy. Staying focused on what I want hasn’t worked for me yet.