I hate to break this to you guys, but only about half of you are any good in bed. Alright. Screw the euphemisms. Only about half of you are decent lays.
This isn’t just my opinion, btw. I’ve checked this with several other sexually experienced women I know and that seems to be the general consensus. Actually, that’s probably a generous number. A couple of women put it at much lower than that. But let’s say half, just to be nice.
Then factor in issues of attraction/chemistry and things like personal preferences for body types and kinks/fetishes (everyone’s a little bit kinky in their own way) and what different people find sexy or erotic and the percentage of guys who might really do it for me gets winnowed down to a measly 5%. If that.
Now, I’m just talking about sex. Sex for sex’s sake(a girl’s got needs). This is entirely different than sex in the context of a relationship. If I like a guy and things are just meh in bed, I’m willing to communicate with him and work on that in the hopes that it will get better. Because I like him and I want our relationship to work. That’s a totally different topic for a totally different post.
Today I’m talking about the very real challenge of finding a guy who I might want to fuck on a regular basis – a fuck buddy. I have one (I’ve had others, but the others are all currently in relationships now.) and he’s out of town all the goddamn time. It’s been weeks. Weeks!
So sure, it’s been weeks and I’m horny so I could just hook up with some random guy at a party or my next date, but I know (KNOW!) that the chances are that the sex really isn’t going to be all that satisfying. That there’s only a 1 in 20 chance that the guy will be fuckbuddy material. And that nothing is actually more crazy-making, for me, than really disappointing sex.
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