I have a date tomorrow night with a guy I first “met’ months ago (pre Mr. Potential). We met online, exchanged a few emails and then spoke on the phone. I liked him well enough – he seemed smart, funny and enthusiastic about his life and work although he was a teensy bit of a name dropper (really guys, I don’t care who you know or who you’re related to). Anyway, we made tentative plans but then something came up (I can’t remember the details) and he had a business-related trip the next week. I never heard from him again and I wrote him off as one of those guys who was just in it for the quick lay, figuring he’d already moved on to someone who hadn’t heard his shtick.
And then I got an email from him last week. Not just an email. Two messages via the online personals site (nerve.com), a regular email and a phone call. All within an hour of each other. He was suddenly very anxious to reconnect with me.
I didn’t answer the phone when it rang because I didn’t recognize the number. But after some thought I decided to reply to the emails. And after a couple of quick emails he called again and we spoke briefly and now we have very definite plans for tomorrow night.
And so. I find this kind of bizarre. To be honest, I’m going against my instincts here. My instincts tell me that if this guy was interested in me, I would have heard back from him a long time ago. And that not hearing from him until last week is a big red flag. Honestly, my gut was telling me to not even reply to the emails.
But I’m trying to rethink some of my old assumptions. Learn better ways of reacting to guys. Be less suspicious. Be more open. And I figured it wouldn’t kill me to give him a shot and find out why he disappeared and then reappeared. I’m hoping he’s been in a relationship this whole time. Then all I need to worry about is not being his rebound girl.
Tags: date, nerve.com, Online dating, red flag