A friend of mine is always telling me, “You can’t go looking for love.  It finds you, not the other way around.” It’s the kind of thing I used to believe in.  But I don’t anymore.  Or at least I don’t think I should.  It’s just not healthy to hold on to those fantasies forever.  [...]

Most online dating sites let you see who’s been looking at your profile (and they’ll let you browse privately, without showing up in anyone’s records if you prefer).  Anyway, sometimes I’ll notice the same guy showing up in my “who’s viewing you” list, day after day.  I usually just ignore it, assuming the guy is [...]