I think I already know the answer to this, but maybe I’m wrong. I’m wrong a lot.
I have a lot of different online profiles, with a few different online services. The one thing that they all have in common (other than that they all describe me in one way or another and they all have pictures of me) is that they all make it clear that I’m seeking a long-term relationship. Eventually. That that’s my goal.
I’m of the belief that one of the most important ingrediants for a successful relationship is that both partners want the same thing at the same time. That one person isn’t thinking, “fling” while the other is thinking, “marriage potential”. Because clearly in those cases someone in going to get hurt. Well, maybe not 100% of the time. Maybe sometimes things work out just fine. But not usually. I don’t think.
So I like to state my intentions and desires up front. As kind of a PLEASE GO AWAY to all of the guys who are just seeking casual relationships. It doesn’t always work. Some of them see my PLEASE GO AWAY plea as a challenge. Or a dare (let’s face it, the world is full of not very nice people).
Anyway, maybe I shouldn’t have that in my profile. Maybe it’s unnecessary? I don’t know. I really don’t. I think it is. But quite frankly, I’ve had so many guys lie to me about wanting just what I want and then it becomes clear that they either a) have absolutely no desire to be in a committed relationship or b) might want, someday to be in a LTR but are not “ready” for one. I almost feel like this is one of those cases where the liars win.
And then, there are those guys who come right out and play the, “well, I can see myself in a relationship someday, but I’m not sure I’m ready now because I just got out of one” card. I don’t know what to do with them anymore. My gut instinct is to not go out with them. That they’re probably not going to be ready for a long, long time. But then, hey, at least they’re being honest.
Oh shit. Have I mentioned lately how much I can really hate dating?
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