I’ve been having some fun, both here and on Twitter, poking fun at the Dating Bootcamp I attended for the past two weeks. I’m still a little shocked I was invited to attend. I mean, I get they wanted dating bloggers but I am so totally opposed to the whole dating advice industry that I would seem to be the last person they’d want in the audience.
And some of the things they advocate are pretty freakin ridiculous. But enough about that.
Truth is, that I absolutely positively agree with a few of the things they said. Not many. Just a few. But since I’ve spend the last couple of weeks poking fun, I thought it would be cool if I actually spent some time telling you some of the good stuff.
- Men are attracted to women who do not lose their identity. This is the number one mistake I make in relationships. My last serious relationship was with a man who was in the entertainment industry. He worked crazy hours. I don’t mean that he worked a lot. He did. But also, he worked hours that were crazy. He’s start in the afternoon and work through to 4 or 5am. I was 9am -7 or 8pm back then. So what did I do? Well, I started to slack off at work, and missed a lot of sleep so that we could be together. I thought I was being flexible, but really I was changing my whole world around for him. And I know that it eventually changed the way he saw me. Not in a good way.
- Men are attracted to confidence. This sounds simple enough, but it’s something a lot of women overlook. We think it’s about things we can buy or hours at the gym, but it’s really not. I know that I get a lot more attention from men now, in my late 30s than I did in my late 20s. I haven’t had plastic surgery or undergone some radical makeover. In fact, I look pretty much the same. I just feel a lot better about myself and it shows.
- This should barely even count, it’s so simple – the most important thing to men is a woman’s looks. Is that all men care about? No. But for the vast majority, a guy’s not going to be the slightest been interested in a women who doesn’t do it for him in the looks department. We may not like this, but tough.
OK, I didn’t actually learn any of this stuff at Dating Bootcamp. I was reminded of it. And it never hurts to be reminded.
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