A couple of weeks ago I wrote that I knew it was going to be harder for me to date at 39. Well, it’s started to happen. I unhid my nerve.com profile the day after my birthday. This is an old account for me, although I update it every time I unhide it with new pics and some new language (it drives me nuts when people have the same exact profile up, year after year).
That was 6 days ago. And in those 6 days my profile has received exactly 55 matching views. I’ve been hotlisted 5 times. I’ve received 0 winks. And have been sent 2 spontaneous messages (not in response to anything I did).
How does this compare to my usual activity? Well, it wasn’t that long ago when I last had an active profile on nerve. I was 38. And while I refreshed the pics and some of the language – I didn’t do anything radical. I used to receive at least a dozen new views a day and it wasn’t uncommon to get 20 a day for the first week. I’d get at few winks a day (more during the first week) and almost always a couple of messages a day. More during the first week.
Clearly men are limiting their preferences to women with a maximum age of 38. Probably because they assume anyone claiming to be 39 is actually 40+.
Oh well, fuck it. I’m not lying.
In other news, I’ve added a little Tipjoy thing over there on the right. A reader suggested it. I feel a llittle weird about it. More than a little. But we’ll see how it goes. If no one uses it then I’ll know it was a kind but inappropriate idea for this site.
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