Alright, let’s see if I can pull together all of the random things I’m thinking right now (this is part poll/part rant). By now, I doubt there are too many people who don’t know who Susan Boyle is. I first saw the clip of her singing last week and I think I actually got teary-eyed.
Millions of people from all over the world have watched her performance on YouTube. And millions more probably haven’t bothered, but know her by name as that older, dowdy talent show contestant who’s never been kissed (I read somewhere today that she’s been offered a million dollars to do a porno! Who the hell would want to watch that?).
Anyway, Susan Boyle reminds me so much of a certain type of woman that we rarely see in the media. The maiden aunt. I don’t know if it’s that there are less of them around nowadays (I always suspected that a large percentage of them were lesbians and maybe now they can finally live the life they really wanted), but the maiden aunt seems to have disappeared from the scene. She and her counterpart, the bachelor uncle, have been banished.
Those maiden aunts and bachelor uncles used to actually be a fixture in our society. They were everywhere: in our families, in books and on TV. But now, not so much.
There are demographic reasons for this, I’m sure. And business reasons (a show about a bunch of old, unmarried folks would probably draw a mature audience, not the favorite of advertisers).
The thing is, without them out there, as regular fixtures, it leaves us all with a distorted view of reality. If we’re never given images of single people who are just single, not looking, not recently widowed or divorced but just single because they are, then we all start to expect everyone to find a mate.
I kind of feel like that’s where we’re at now. That being single beyond a certain age is no longer considered a viable option. The maiden aunts and bachelor uncles are all gone and what we’re left with is a culture that says, “there’s someone for everyone”. And with this someone for everyone belief system comes dating coaches and relationship experts and a multi-million dollar online dating industry around which has formed several cottage industries of professional online dating profile writers and photographers who specialize in online dating pics and people who will manage your online dating account for you. Because there’s someone for everyone. Your someone is out there. You just have to keep looking. Try harder. Invest more (Now I realize that I might seem like a symptom of this disease. But the truth is that I don’t really care all that much about happily ever after. I’m just a heck of a lot happier when I have a guy in my life and getting laid on a regular basis.).
Anyway, I think that it’s all just a load of crap. I don’t believe there’s someone for everyone, though I must’ve been told that at least a thousand times in my life. I don’t buy it. Not only don’t I buy it, but I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing if there are some people who live their whole lives without a match. Heck, I just might be one of them.
What about you, do you believe that there’s someone for everyone? Come on, be honest?
- Yes. I believe that there’s someone for everyone. (35 votes)
- No. What a load of crap. There have always been people who lived solitary lives, there always will be. (48 votes)
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