I’ve had over 12 hours to think about it and I still have no idea what to think about last night’s date (OK, I was sleeping for at least 5 of those hours, but still). I do, however, have a nickname for the guy. That’s a no-brainer. He’s Coach.
I can’t tell you too many details about Coach because it’s entirely possible that someone who knows him reads this blog, and his bio is pretty distinctive. But here’s some info:
- He was a college athlete (the type that was recruited aggressively by many schools/had a free ride) and then played his sport professionally after college – overseas. I won’t say where or what sport, other than to say it’s a sport I LOVE and I mention how much I love this sport in my online dating profile.
- He now works in a field I have a lot of respect for. A lot.
- He’s very attractive but does not come off as cocky.
- He has a teen-aged child who he is very close to and spoils rotten.
- He is VERY close to his family and is a self-admitted mamas boy. He mentioned his mother more times during our first date than most guys would mention in several months of dating.
So, about the date. I was charmed by him online. He came off as sweet and unassuming, but also hot as hell (I’m not really into athletes, but am kinda tired of arty guys who won’t watch a game with me because they’re not into sports). But then, he lost major points by not actually planning the date. He left it completely up to me, saying “tell me when and where”. It pissed me off. I suggested a place and time and he agreed and I thought we were set.
And then he was late. I got a text from him a few minutes after he was supposed to show asking where the place was again, that he’d lost the email and couldn’t remember. I answered back with the address. He was blocks away. Ugh, right? This went back and forth several times until he arrived about 20 minutes late. By then I was in, ‘I don’t care how charming you are, you’re a dumbass’ mode.
But then he was charming. Very charming. And sweet. And he actually argued sports with me (well, his sport). We had a great little arguement over teams and players and stats and he took me and my opinions seriously and that was fun. I like mixing flirting with arguing over sports (see, guys, I’m even cooler than you thought).
Only he kept bringing up his mom and his family and little things about how close they all were and how spoiled he was (he’s the only boy) and how, if he and I worked out I’d love his grandmother’s cooking and where I’d sit at the Thanksgiving table. The sitting at the Thanksgiving table thing really was wierd. And he asked me out for a second date less than an hour into the night. Before we finished our first drinks.
Anyway, it’s nice to have someone openly express how much he likes me. And to say, repeatedly, how much he’s looking for a relationship. I mean, that’s what I’m looking for. But at the same time, I’d never talk about the future like that with a guy who hadn’t already expressed deep feelings for me. Never. Not even jokingly. So it kind of freaked me out when he did it.
And then, well, how much can he like me? We just met. Right now, he just likes the way I look (And he complimented me a couple more times than I’m comfortable with, btw. I’m not that hot.).
Alright, I’m overthinking this. I know I am. Our second date is Sunday night. I’ll learn more about him then. For now, all I really know is that I just don’t know.
Tags: charming, first date, Online dating, second date