I know that only a small percentage of my readers read the comment threads (hey, it’s your loss, sometimes the comments are the best part of the post). Well, I take my comments very seriously, try to respond appropriately and even take people’s advice when I think it’s appropriate (some of the changes I’ve made to the site over time have been made because of reader’s comments).
Anyway, yesterday someone wrote in that I should talk to guys on the phone before meeting them out on a date. That I should be using those phone calls to screen guys, to gather info about them, as a matter of safety. I think that’s a load of crap. A guy could just as easily lie on the phone, as he can via email.
I do take my safety very seriously. I’ve written about this before. I don’t think I need to do background checks on guys or go to any other extraordinary measures. Just use some common sense.
Here are some of the steps I always take (for the full list – check out this link):
- Make sure you have an email account that is set up expressly for the purposes of online dating. You can also use this account for online shopping, if you want. Do not have this account traceable to you in any way. Do not use your last name on the account.
- Do not give your last name out if you are google-able. Not everybody is, but most people are. You do not want people to know your place of employment until your are ready to disclose that information.
- Do not use your landline for phonecalls until you are sure you want someone in your life.
Implied in this list that I always meet men in public places. Who doesn’t know that – good god!
Tags: comments, google, Online dating, safety