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And Now For Something Completely Different

Me, me, me, me, me, me.  That’s all you ever hear about it.  I don’t know about you, but I’m pretty sick of it.

I thought it would be cool to start to dedicate one day a week to a different voice, a different point of view.  And I thought that it would be especially helpful to me if that point of view came from a guy.

So now, every Sunday, I’m going to have a guest blogger.  He’s not here to answer my questions or to share his great wisdom on dating or relationships.  No, he’s just going to tell us about some recent thing that’s happened in his dating life (this is still my blog, after all, and I believe that real stories are powerful stuff). Some guys might be here, guest blogging, for a few weeks, others might just need a week to tell their story.  Let me know if you’d like to join in.

SFSingleGuy is my first brave volunteer.  He’s a 37 year old single guy living in San Francisco.  Over the course of the next few weeks he’s going to tell us about his most recent relationship.


It started in December.  I had gone on a bad online date (again),
and swore to myself that I was done with online dating.  So on a
Saturday evening when I was taking a break from work watching TED
talks online, I saw one talk in particular, and ended up signing up
for the dating site that the talk had been the topic of the matching
processes they use..

I got noticed by a few girls right away, but one really stood out
and grabbed my attention.  A few exchanges, some emails, and we met
up for coffee at one of my first date destinations, a popular coffee
house at Ocean Beach.  Sat in the pseudo urban garden (it did have
flora, and was actually quite nice) across from the coffee house,
and talked for about an hour.  She had to go meet up with a friend,
so I gave her a ride and she ended the date by saying that I should
give her a call.

Sushi date, a Saturday bike ride around the city followed by lunch
and a couple of Bud Lights, and then came the lets cook dinner at my
place date.  She brought a bottle of wine, and we ended up on my
futon (in the couch sitting configuration) watching a movie.  About
15 minutes into the movie she turned to me and said something about
being distracted, next thing I know we were making out.  She was a
good kisser, and shortly after the futon was reconfigured to the
prone position, as were we.

We didn’t do it that night – I hadn’t had sex in a while, and wasn’t
quite ready to jump back in as two of my friends had unexpected
offspring in the past two years.  I was a largely self employed
consultant running a technology startup, so I already had one baby
to take care of.  However, within a week I had lost my virginity
again, after I had taken the steps to insure that I would bepracticing .

The first month went by, and I was kind of blown away.  Here I was,
using to be this perenially single guy, and I had been dating the
same girl for a month now (all of January).  And I was getting
regular loving.  Things were going great, and were only getting
better.  What would happen next I didn’t really realize until it was
well under way, but that is a topic for the next chapter.”

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6 to “And Now For Something Completely Different”

  1. bellaressa says:

    I think this is a fantastic idea, I can’t wait to read more.

  2. Anonymous says:

    I feel the strange immature urge to yell “FIRST” but I wont 😉

    Great idea Simone, to have guest bloggers – I am actually in the beginning stages of a very interesting dating experience myself, but i think i should let it unfold a bit more before I begin writing about it.

    And to our guest blogger. thanks for leaving a girl wondering 😉 Waiting for your next installment.

  3. PiscesInPurple says:

    Nice idea.
    It also reminds me: Whatever happened to the Ex Files? I’m not seeing the link at the top of the page any more.

  4. queenieNYC says:

    I love it! Fantastic idea.

  5. SINgleGIRL says:

    I’m so glad you all like the idea. I know I love listening to other people’s stories.

    Oh and PiscesinPurple – you are too smart for me. I just hid away the Ex Files. I was hoping no one would notice. I thought I was 100% emotionally over that situation and cool with that ex when I started the project. But it turns out I’m not (he’s the one who pops up every month or so and makes me go nuts). I was loading a bunch of posts into the Ex Files this weekend and it just started to hurt. Too much. To dredge through all of that stuff. So I decided to cool it. Kill it. Maybe it will come back one day. I’m not sure. Just goes to show how powerful the past is. What’s that wonderful quote, “the past is never dead, it’s not even the past.” I was feeling that a little bit too acutely.

  6. Anonymous says:

    Cliffhanger! Not fair. I love this can’t wait to read more!

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