Me, me, me, me, me, me. That’s all you ever hear about it. I don’t know about you, but I’m pretty sick of it.
I thought it would be cool to start to dedicate one day a week to a different voice, a different point of view. And I thought that it would be especially helpful to me if that point of view came from a guy.
So now, every Sunday, I’m going to have a guest blogger. He’s not here to answer my questions or to share his great wisdom on dating or relationships. No, he’s just going to tell us about some recent thing that’s happened in his dating life (this is still my blog, after all, and I believe that real stories are powerful stuff). Some guys might be here, guest blogging, for a few weeks, others might just need a week to tell their story. Let me know if you’d like to join in.
SFSingleGuy is my first brave volunteer. He’s a 37 year old single guy living in San Francisco. Over the course of the next few weeks he’s going to tell us about his most recent relationship.
It started in December. I had gone on a bad online date (again),
and swore to myself that I was done with online dating. So on a
Saturday evening when I was taking a break from work watching TED
talks online, I saw one talk in particular, and ended up signing up
for the that the talk had been the topic of the matching
processes they use..
I got noticed by a few girls right away, but one really stood out
and grabbed my attention. A few exchanges, some emails, and we met
up for coffee at one of my destinations, a popular coffee
house at Ocean Beach. Sat in the pseudo urban garden (it did have
flora, and was actually quite nice) across from the coffee house,
and talked for about an hour. She had to go meet up with a friend,
so I gave her a ride and she ended the date by saying that I should
give her a call.
Sushi date, a Saturday bike ride around the city followed by lunch
and a couple of Bud Lights, and then came the lets cook dinner at my
place date. She brought a bottle of wine, and we ended up on my
futon (in the couch sitting configuration) watching a movie. About
15 minutes into the movie she turned to me and said something about
being distracted, next thing I know we were making out. She was a
good kisser, and shortly after the futon was reconfigured to the
prone position, as were we.
We didn’t do it that night – I hadn’t had sex in a while, and wasn’t
quite ready to jump back in as two of my friends had unexpected
offspring in the past two years. I was a largely self employed
consultant running a technology startup, so I already had one baby
to take care of. However, within a week I had lost my virginity
again, after I had taken the steps to insure that I would bepracticing safe sex.
The first month went by, and I was kind of blown away. Here I was,
using to be this perenially single guy, and I had been dating the
same girl for a month now (all of January). And I was getting
regular loving. Things were going great, and were only getting
better. What would happen next I didn’t really realize until it was
well under way, but that is a topic for the next chapter.”
Tags: chemistry, safe sex