A long, long time ago (in a land far, far away) I was dating the most shallow of boys. And to be fair, our relationship was pretty shallow. We liked each other enough, as people, and cared about each other. But we had nothing in common and not much to talk about. We were just really attracted to each other and we were young and horny and that was enough.
One night we were out, hanging out at the club we hung out at (the place we met, in fact) and a very attractive woman walked up to us and started to talk to him. He introduced her to me by name and we all made small talk for a while and then she walked away. After she left he told me that they used to date but that he’d broken up with her because she’d gotten fat (this woman was a size 6 at most!). Then he quickly added, “But I’d never do that to you. I care about you. I wouldn’t care if you gained weight.”
This story came to mind this weekend as I was reregistering for OKCupid. I decided to give it another try. I kept hearing and reading such positive things about the site, I figured that maybe I didn’t give it a thorough enough look. And so over the weekend I created a brand new profile and set about taking their tests and answering their questions all over again. This time, though, I tried to answer different matching questions so that maybe my results would randomly match me with different people.
And several times I was asked to answer a variation of the same question:
If you were dating someone and then that person gained a lot of weight, would you break up with them? I answered, NO. And I also said that my “perfect match” should say no and that that was very important to me. Not because I plan on gaining weight but because I just think the very idea of a person ending a relationship with someone over a weight gain is shallow and immature.
How about you – Would you end the relationship if the person you were dating, or your significant other, gained weight?
- Yes. Otherwise it’s false advertising. If someone is thin when we meet then they should stay thin. (5 votes)
- No. I wouldn’t care at all. I care about a person’s inner beauty. (25 votes)
- No, but I would encourage and support them to lose the weight. (77 votes)
- Maybe, it depends on how long we’ve been together. (10 votes)
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