No one could ever accuse me of being a golddigger. Not with a straight face. Sure, I’ve dated guys with money (I dated one guy who had a bedroom closet that was bigger than my bedroom and he lived in a better neighborhood than I did) and I’ve dated guys who were broke. I’ve never once dated a guy because he had money or not dated a guy because he didn’t.
But. I think that maybe I’ve started giiving guys with money a little extra slack in the pre-dating, screening process. Gosh, writing than makes me hate myself.
I’m not sure how long this has been going on. Not long. Maybe a few months. Maybe a year. It’s something I’ve just become conscious of, but looking back I can see a pattern. I’ll be emailing back and forth with some guy or talking with him on the phone, trying to decide if we’re going to get together – you know, typical online dating pre-screening stuff, and I take a little more notice of those little indicators of wealth and security than I used to. And, well, if a guy is financially secure I’m a lot more likely to agree to that first date.
That can’t be the only thing he’s got going for him. It’s not like I’m shopping for a guy with dough. But if I’m sizing someone up and there are a bunch of pros and a bunch of cons, I find myself putting the money in the pro column. I never used to do that. I used to think that someone’s income/financial status was completely irrelevant. And I don’t anymore. Now it counts in the pro column.
And for that I am ashamed of myself and think that I’m kinda a bad person.
Sometimes the truth is ugly.
Tags: dating, money, Online dating