I stayed up last night to watch President Obama on Leno. It was probably the first time I watched The Tonight Show in 5 or 6 years. I really don’t like Leno. But I wanted to see Obama and so I made myself stay up and watch (even though I really wasn’t feeling well and should have gone to bed early).
I figured I might feel a little better about the world if I watched. And amazingly, I did. Obama is good with political theater, and I’m thankful for that. Our world is a seriously messed up place right now and it’s going to take a long time for any of the big problems to get fixed. For now, all any of us can really hope for is to have someone pat us on the back every once in a while and tell us that it’s all going to be OK. Which was what last night seemed to be about, I think.
Anyway, our world is a mess with no hope of getting better anytime in the near future. And we all have our individual ways of coping. Some people seem to be in denial and are just continuing on with their lives as if nothing has changed. Others are clearly in the anger stage, constantly ranting and raving about how stupid and greedy everyone is. Many have turned to their religion for guidance, and still others have adopted a cultish zeal for everything green and local. And then there are the ones who’ve turned to dating as their own personal path to salvation.
No, I’m not joking. Dating has become, in these tough times, one of the new ways forward. Many single people have decided, it seems, that the best way for them to deal with the current uncertainty is to date and possibly mate.
I’ve been reading for months about the record profits at online dating services and about what they might mean. And then today there was this in the Daily Dish. This dating coach is bragging about his own success and a roster of male clients who are desperate to meet women. He asserts that “the loss of financial security drives them to seek emotional security.”
I don’t doubt that he’s busy. It makes complete sense to me that single people, both men and women, are putting new energy into their searches for partners. I’m just not so sure it’s as deep as seeking “emotional security”. I’m guessing that a lot of these people are now finding that they can no longer hide behind, “being too busy at work” or “being focused on their careers”. That in many cases those excuses have gone away, either because the jobs have gone away or because the intensity of the work has diminished (I know for a fact that there are some high paid lawyers sitting in their fancy offices in NYC with nothing to do). So what does a 30+ or 40+ year old professional do when they are no longer working most of their waking hours and they find themselves single and alone? They focus their attention on dating.
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