There’s this stat that’s been floating around for the last few weeks – 1 in every 8 couples who got married last year met online. I’ve seen it a few times. I don’t know who did the research or if it’s legit. I tried googling it and couldn’t come up with a source. Anyway, it seems like it could be true as just about every single person over the age of 22 has tried online dating.
So lots and lots of people are meeting online. It’s so mainstream it’s ridiculous. Sure, there used to be a stigma attached to it (although I completely ignored it when there was and went ahead and did it anyway) but not anymore.
One of the posts on today’s Dear Sugar page was from a woman who was ashamed of having met her boyfriend online. She adores him but doesn’t want to admit to her family that she met him on an online dating site. At first I kind of snorted because I thought it was just ridiculous. I mean, hello, 1 out of every 8 couples who were married in the US last year met online (if that stat is true). But it’s not good enough for you? The girl should get over it.
Then I remembered that it wasn’t that long ago that I dated someone who insisted we lie about how we met. I was pretty shocked, but so crazy for him that I did it anyway. I told my friends the truth. But his friends were fed a pretty blatant lie about how we were introduced by a mutual friend (we ran in such completely different circles that it just wasn’t likely). When I asked him why we had to tell his friends the lie he said that he didn’t want them thinking he needed to look online for dates.
Ahem. He didn’t need to. He was too good for that.
That relationship didn’t go so well. And, yeah, I should’ve taken that conversation as a sign.
This is now something that is firmly on my list. I will not under any circumstances date anyone who will not admit to his friends and/or family that we met online. Not negotiable.
Tags: liar, marriage, Online dating, research, truth