There’s a little place in the village that I’ve been going to for years. It’s a cafe/wine bar called ‘Ino and even as I type this I do so self-consciously because I hesitate to recommend it to anyone. I wish I could give you a rational explanation for why I like this place so much. But I can’t. There are so many things to not like about it.
It’s tiny and just about always crowded. And the service is inconsistent. Sometimes it’ll be fabulous. Other times you’ll sit and wait forever for no apparent reason. The prices can hardly be called exorbitant (not by New York standards) but it’s not cheap either.
But I’ve never had a bad meal there. Ever. In fact, every meal I’ve ever had there has been good. I tend to pop by for brunch (if you get there by 11:30 you avoid the rush) and their brunches are pretty amazing,
It’s pretty common for me to bring guys there on dates. It’s perfect for brunch, as I just mentioned, and also for after movie drinks/dessert or a late, light supper.
Now, I hope that everyone reading this in NYC doesn’t run out and head over to ‘Ino with their dates. That’d suck. It’s already too crowded. And if you did, you’d kind of be missing my point. ‘Ino is my weird, I love it in spite of its faults place (or one of them). I go there on dates because I love it, sure, but also because it’s not a completely bland, flawless, mainstream choice. If someone likes to complain, they’ll have plenty to complain about.
Oh please, don’t start accusing me of making every date into a test. This isn’t a test. I do, however, see every date as an opportunity to get to know the other person a little bit better. And I don’t do this just by asking them questions about themselves. In fact, the Q & A stuff doesn’t really tell me what I most want to know.
I general, I believe I can learn a lot about a person by observing how they act. Taking a guy to ‘Ino, it’s just an opportunity to observe him, and learn more about him. I’m looking to see how mellow or unmellow my date is. How open he is to new things. That kind of stuff is important to me. I kind of can’t stand when the person I”m with freaks out because everything isn’t exactly the way he thinks it should be. It’s a giant red flag for me.
Tags: Best Date Spots, brunch, red flag, wine bar