So there was this one guy who I actually found more than just a little bit interesting/attractive on Chemistry.com. He definitely stood out from the rest of the crowd. But of course there was one thing tragically wrong with him. He lives in the suburbs, about an hour away from the city by train.
Still, I was intrigued enough to go all the way through to the last stage of communication with him. I guess I wanted to find something wrong with him other than where he lived. Kind of like when I try something on in a store, hoping it won’t fit because I can’t afford it anyway. If it doesn’t fit then it doesn’t matter that I can’t afford it.
Of course, he fit. Like a glove.
But I don’t do suburbs. Nope. That’s one of those non-negotiables like good sex.
So I did the only sensible thing I could think of doing. As soon as we got to the email stage of the game I sent him an email explaining that I was not, ever, interested in moving to the suburbs. Ever (I was amusing about it). I pointed out that perhaps it would be a waste of time for us to move forward.
His reply made me laugh out loud. Really. It was the best email I have ever received from anyone in the context of online dating. In it he admitted that he’d never want to move to the city, but then suggested we go out anyway. I replied that while he seemed charming it also seemed like us going out could never have a happy ending. He agreed and we exchanged pleasantries.
I thought about it for a while afterwards. What am I, nuts? Here was a potentially great guy who wanted to go out with me and he lived just a short train ride away and I said no. I think there are probably dozens of women who will read this and think I’m nuts.
The way I see it, though, he’s a dead end. I already know I hate living in the suburbs. Hate it. I love living in the city. His feelings are the complete opposite. Neither of us are going to change are minds on this. So why bother.
Nope. I’m not nuts.
Tags: nyc, Online dating, suburbs