Comments on: I Am Officially Too Old For Games http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/02/06/i-am-officially-too-old-for-games-2/ Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 06:55:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: SINgleGIRL http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/02/06/i-am-officially-too-old-for-games-2/comment-page-1/#comment-953 SINgleGIRL Sat, 07 Feb 2009 16:42:30 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/2782878#comment-953 -Teifion, You did it!! I don't think you're wrong and I have been preparing for the worst ever since he canceled our 2nd date. But, you know, hoping I'm wrong and that he's not a jerk. -jamy.barab Thanks so much for joining the conversation. Yes, this is where the "teach others how to treat you" comes in. And it was hard. Because I would've liked to just say, "sure I can make that happen" and then met him for dinner last night. But I know better. Now. -Savoree LeDesir. Oooh, welcome. And thank you. I feel like it was the right thing to do. And there have been developments since I posted last night. You were right. -derek7272 Oh, I had absolutely no intention of doing another thing. The ball was completely in his court. And he's made his intentions clear. At least, for now. -bobbyjensen, Thank darling. Had a feeling you and I might see eye to eye on this one. -recklessstudion, I don't get it either. But I was/am willing to cut him some slack because I know he has a lot on his plate at work. Like I said, I date adults and adults have lots of responsibilities. But it's something that annoys the hell out of me. -cjw66, Yes, the fact that I showed up looking kind of shabby was weighing on me. It's not about winning, it's about showing effort. I get all pissed off when guys show up looking like they didn't make any effort and then I went and did the same thing. Not OK. And so, yeah, I need to make sure that I don't get so busy that I let that happen again. -Teifion,
You did it!! I don’t think you’re wrong and I have been preparing for the worst ever since he canceled our 2nd date. But, you know, hoping I’m wrong and that he’s not a jerk.
-jamy.barab
Thanks so much for joining the conversation. Yes, this is where the “teach others how to treat you” comes in. And it was hard. Because I would’ve liked to just say, “sure I can make that happen” and then met him for dinner last night. But I know better. Now.
-Savoree LeDesir.
Oooh, welcome. And thank you. I feel like it was the right thing to do. And there have been developments since I posted last night. You were right.
-derek7272
Oh, I had absolutely no intention of doing another thing. The ball was completely in his court. And he’s made his intentions clear. At least, for now.
-bobbyjensen,
Thank darling. Had a feeling you and I might see eye to eye on this one.
-recklessstudion,
I don’t get it either. But I was/am willing to cut him some slack because I know he has a lot on his plate at work. Like I said, I date adults and adults have lots of responsibilities. But it’s something that annoys the hell out of me.
-cjw66,
Yes, the fact that I showed up looking kind of shabby was weighing on me. It’s not about winning, it’s about showing effort. I get all pissed off when guys show up looking like they didn’t make any effort and then I went and did the same thing. Not OK. And so, yeah, I need to make sure that I don’t get so busy that I let that happen again.

]]> By: cjw666 http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/02/06/i-am-officially-too-old-for-games-2/comment-page-1/#comment-952 cjw666 Sat, 07 Feb 2009 05:05:00 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/2782878#comment-952 Sorry, part of that first para should read - "and simply doesn't know what to do." My typing's getting worse!!! Sorry, part of that first para should read – “and simply doesn’t know what to do.”

My typing’s getting worse!!!

]]> By: cjw666 http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/02/06/i-am-officially-too-old-for-games-2/comment-page-1/#comment-951 cjw666 Sat, 07 Feb 2009 04:47:04 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/2782878#comment-951 He has "issues" in his life, if I recall and that may be forcing him to attend to the fact. No sweat - as you say, you're adults. Alternatively, he may be doing something similar to what you're doing and seeing someone else that he's not sure about and simply doesn't want to know what to do. Or it may be something else... Whatever, for what it's worth, I think you did the right thing - you let him know he should have replied to your email, you showed interest without being "needy" and now you'll have to wait and see. I agree with those who say, chill now and see what happens. One thing, though, I get the feeling you are really beating yourself up somewhat for not making more effort to be your more physically desirable alter ego on the first date. I know it's not a game, but you need to feel in your heart that you've given yourself the best shot at winning that you can, don't you? So, I imagine you won't do that again, will you? He has “issues” in his life, if I recall and that may be forcing him to attend to the fact. No sweat – as you say, you’re adults. Alternatively, he may be doing something similar to what you’re doing and seeing someone else that he’s not sure about and simply doesn’t want to know what to do. Or it may be something else…

Whatever, for what it’s worth, I think you did the right thing – you let him know he should have replied to your email, you showed interest without being “needy” and now you’ll have to wait and see. I agree with those who say, chill now and see what happens.

One thing, though, I get the feeling you are really beating yourself up somewhat for not making more effort to be your more physically desirable alter ego on the first date. I know it’s not a game, but you need to feel in your heart that you’ve given yourself the best shot at winning that you can, don’t you? So, I imagine you won’t do that again, will you?

]]> By: recklessstudio http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/02/06/i-am-officially-too-old-for-games-2/comment-page-1/#comment-950 recklessstudio Sat, 07 Feb 2009 03:38:20 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/2782878#comment-950 I personally don't see anything wrong with what YOU are doing. Yeah, he may be busy but what I don't understand is this. If people are looking for something special with someone and are legitimately interested, wouldn't you want to show SOME effort. Why wait for let time pass before you make the next move? Clearly, I am talking about this guy. If he continues this then you know you don't have to put up with it. Wish guys would stop being flaky...then they wonder why women are flaky to them... I personally don’t see anything wrong with what YOU are doing. Yeah, he may be busy but what I don’t understand is this. If people are looking for something special with someone and are legitimately interested, wouldn’t you want to show SOME effort. Why wait for let time pass before you make the next move?

Clearly, I am talking about this guy. If he continues this then you know you don’t have to put up with it.

Wish guys would stop being flaky…then they wonder why women are flaky to them…

]]> By: bobbyjensen http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2009/02/06/i-am-officially-too-old-for-games-2/comment-page-1/#comment-949 bobbyjensen Sat, 07 Feb 2009 00:43:27 +0000 http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/2782878#comment-949 Never understood games, never want to. I have no problem at all with what you posted here. Never understood games, never want to. I have no problem at all with what you posted here.

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