So I didn’t have any dates this past weekend, which left me free to catch up with friends, do some extra writing and finish that great book I’ve been reading. Yeah, right. I did do some extra writing, but I also watched some absolutely awful things on television. The type of stuff I usually read about on blogs but never actually see for myself.
Friday night I watched a “special” 20/20 called Why Him/Why Her? It was basically an hour long commercial for Dr. Helen Fisher’s new book of the same title and Chemistry.com (I guess she’s their love algorithm guru). It was pretty silly and obvious and sad. And so of course at the end of the show when they told everyone that they could go to the abc.news website and take the test discussed during the show (the one used by Chemistry.com to match people, and btw, full disclosure – I recall doing it before when Chemistry first came on the scene but I wasn’t impressed by the test, the site or their pricing) I went and did it right away.
There are elements of the test that are completely ridiculous and others that are mildly insulting. And there are some questions that I do think are useful in the way that all of these things have some validity. My biggest issue with these tests is that a person’s answers can vary depending on their mood (I know mine can, at least) so I just don’t know how they put anyone in a fixed category. And I know that I must’ve been in some kind of strange and funky mood on Friday night because the category/secondary category they placed me in weren’t in line with what they were the last time and pretty different from the Myers-Briggs type assessments I’ve been through.
Whatever. I can understand why people love the idea of these tests. eHarmony (I did eHarmony – 4 yrs ago, I think – and the few actual dates I went on were disasters. Much worse then any guy I’ve picked out without the use of a test. I was so disappointed. And then I heard similar stories from several other people.) is a multimillion dollar business because most of us are sick of dating and at the place where we’re unsure of our own judgment. Taking a test and then having the test match us based on “scientific” compatibility sounds a lot better than trial and error. Heck, I’d love to believe that there was a way to know for sure who was right for me. But I don’t. I don’t believe. I’m not going to completely poopoo it, either. I guess you could say I’m agnostic on this.
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