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Optimism and Opportunity

I had a really good on Friday.  A surprisingly good . It was the longest I’ve had in years.  We met at 7:30.  I got home past midnight.  We met for a drink (I was having non-alcoholic beverages because I wasn’t feeling well and so taking some pretty strong medicine) and then after talking for over three hours we went for a light meal as he hadn’t eaten all day and neither of us really wanted to stop talking.

I don’t really have a nickname for him yet.  I think I want to wait until Wednesday, which is when we’re seeing each other again.  We have dinner plans.  Sushi.  Yum.

My with the Musician is rescheduled for Friday night.  He was so sweet about my need to reschedule.  He emailed me this morning and offered to bring me chicken soup.

And there are a few other very interesting men in the hopper.  Very interesting.  I’m kind of getting excited about dating right now.  Like I’m bound to have some fun with one of these guys.  It’d kind of be impossible not to. I should be getting together with at least 3 of these other guys for first dates this week.  Details as my plans firm up, of course.

I titled this post, “Optimism and Opportunity”.  I feel like I have plenty of each right now.  And that’s good.  But as I write I am reminding myself, don’t get blindsinded.  Pay attention.  Learn from your mistakes. I think it’s helpful that I’ve finally gotten around to putting together the Ex Files.  Today I posted the emails that followed my first date with M and I was reminded just how early I should’ve seen the warning signs.  But I didn’t.  Because I didn’t want to.

As optimistic as I am right now, I’m going to try hard to temper that optimism with some good old-fashioned cynicism.


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  1. starangel82 says:

    Congrats on a good first date. I know it’s a great feeling when you have a good first date.

  2. bobbyjensen says:

    Optimism is exciting and it really is a good thing to keep things in perspective I think.

  3. recklessstudio says:

    Nice! You have no idea how excited I am for you. This is a good time and although you need to be aware of grounding yourself, it’s ok to be excited and have that enthusiasm about dating. There have been many times when you have said how unenthusiastic you have been about dating in the past, so this is a very welcome change. Like I said before – nothing wrong with having an abundance. Go with it and have fun!

  4. SINgleGIRL says:

    -starange182
    It is a great feeling and one I’ve missed. No matter what happens on our next date, I’m happy.
    -bobbyjensen
    Perspective – yes, exactly.
    -recklessstudio
    I guess this is a bit of a change, and a good one. I will take your advice and have as much fun as I can.

  5. WiiAdam says:

    I just love a Cynical Girl!

    (….There’s a song I haven’t heard in a long time…..)

    All the best, hun.
    ~x~WiiAdam & William

  6. SINgleGIRL says:

    -William
    Good to hear from you, darling. It’s been a while.