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All I Wanted 4 Xmas

I wrote this post about a month ago, right around the time when everyone was trying to digest their dinners.  I thought it might be interesting to dig it up and repost.

Dear Santa

Nov27

I am so not into the holidays. Not Thanksgiving or Xmas/Hanukkah (same difference). And I’m perfectly happy to forgo all of the traditions that go with them, including the gifts exchange. It’s just all so forced.

So needless to say I didn’t rush out to shop the Black Friday sales. I’d rather walk on broken glass.

However, I did take a few minutes to think up my own personal wish list and as usual, none of the things I want can be bought in stores.

Please oh please oh please can I start that healthy sometime soon? I know that it’s going to take a lot of work from me. That I’m going to have to unlearn a lot of my old habits and learn some new ones. I’m totally game and completely ready.

And about the guy. I’ve already written about my needs and wants. Well, I have one more thing to add to the list. Just one. I’d like the guy to be someone I can be completely honest with. That means I can tell him about this (after we’re really comfortable with one another) and if he wants to he can read it and he’d be totally cool with it. Totally cool. And I could tell him about everything I’ve ever done and ever wanted to do (if it came up) and he’d be cool with that too. No fibbing.

The last thing on my wish list has nothing to do with men or sex or relationships. It belongs on this list, but not on this blog. I’ve been trying to ride the wave of a major career transition over the last year. It was my choice, I initiated it. And, of course, nothing has gone the way I thought it might. My wish is that things start to get a little easier. See, I’m not asking for a miracle. No big book contract or surprise benefactor. Just for things to get a little easier.

That’s it. Just those 3 little things. Zero dollar value on any of them. I don’t think it’s too much to ask for.

BTW, I have a date with The Freelancer tonight. Details as it happens on Twitter.

Well, not much has changed since then.  I still want exactly the same things. I do seem to be a little further along the path towards that healthy relationship.  Back when I wrote this I’d already gone on a couple of/few dates with Mr. Potential but wasn’t sure if there was anything there.  It’s nice to look back and see some progress in my life.

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  1. bobbyjensen says:

    “I do seem to be a little further along the path towards that healthy relationship.”

    This is what I like to hear :)

  2. derek7272 says:

    Do you think it’s a little weird you call the blog “Sex, lies and dating” and say you’re looking for someone you can be totally honest with?

  3. SINgleGIRL says:

    -derek7272
    Um, now that you mention it. Yeah. But if you put “lies” in the search in the search box you’ll see the genesis of the name.
    -bobbyjensen
    -See, I am capable of optimism.

  4. bobbyjensen says:

    hmm I always thought the name was accurate because you were journeying through sex, lies and dating.

    I guess it’s a matter of perception.