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Morning After Update

This is going to be unorganized and maybe incoherent because I’m bleary eyed and still drinking my coffee (yeah, at 11:24, and that’s a good thing).  Yesterday morning I got a lovely text from Mr. Potential telling me he was looking forward to seeing me later.  I texted back asking about our specific plans. We’d talked (or maybe texted) earlier in the week about seeing a movie.  A few minutes later my phone rang and it was him.  He wanted to see if I’d be interested in having dinner with his closest friends, his best friend and his wife.  He proceeded to tell me they were leaving town on a trip the next day, today, and to it would be his last chance to see them before they left.

So I said, sure, I’d love to meet them.  I thought it was a big step.  Anyway, later on in the conversation as we were trying to figure out the timing for the movie and dinner I pointed out that we should prioritize dinner with his friends as he really wanted to see them before they left for the next couple of weeks.  He then interrupted me and said, “the reason I want to have dinner with them today is so that you can meet them.”

So it wasn’t just that I thought it was a big step, he was kind of announcing it as a big step.  I want you to meet my closest friends.  It’s important to me. That made up for the daily checking of the online personals.

So then, towards the end of the workday I found out that his friends were completely unwilling to come out in the storm.  I didn’t take it personally.  It was a nasty night.  Mr. Potential made reservations for us at a restauraunt not too far from where we were seeing the movie and we had an early (yummy sushi) dinner and saw a great movie (Milk, I highly recommend it) and then came back to my place.

Oh wait, I missed a really important detail.  Mr. Potential bought me a Christman .  A really sweet .  I was completely caught off guard,  It didn’t occur to me that he might do that.  And it was something he must have spent a little time looking for because it was an article of clothing and I am a rather petite woman and so it’s virtually impossible to find anything to fit me.  But it fits perfectly.  Needless to say I did not buy him a because here I was for the last couple of weeks thinking he just wasn’t that into me and wondering why I was even dating him.

So, in the end, I was wrong.  Completely wrong.  I now have no doubt in my mind that he is into me.  On top of the fact that he said he wanted me to meet his friends and that he bought me a gift, he was a lot more open last night.  He told me a little more about parts of his life that I previously didn’t know anything about.  And he made several comments about things he wanted “us” to do in the future that sounded concrete and realistic.

On my end, I did get around to opening up some and talking to him a tiny little bit about one of the things that had been gnawing at me,  Not about “us” but just something that I’d been keeping to myself that I needed to share.  I think it went well, but I really won’t know for a couple of weeks, as he leaves for the holidays in a couple of days and isn’t back until the 30th.

Oh, and I completely wimped out on telling him about the blog.  I just couldn’t.  I figured it was best to let some other things settle for a while and then see what we see.  So that’s it.  A happy ending, I think.  Now I’m going back to bed for a nap.  Mr. Potential and I didn’t sleep much last night.  Sorry, I can’t bring myself to offer up those kinds of details.  Just let’s say that I am smiling in between yawns.


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  1. Teifion says:

    Looks like my advice as not too bad after all :) I’m glad that you gave him a bit more time and it looks like you are too. Well done for being patient. You are quite a good writer, I’d probably have written it in two paragraphs with all the emotion of a tree frog, well done for that too :)

  2. That Lawyer Dude says:

    YESSSSS!!!! I am very happy for you.

  3. Singlegal says:

    Hooray! What a great night – I’m so happy for you.
    Singlegal

  4. recklessstudio says:

    HA! Told you!

    That’s really awesome news to hear! That was so clutch of Mr. P. Ballsy too if you ask me but the best decision in every way.

    Good stuff!

  5. highheelgal says:

    Aw…good for you! Mr. Potential isn’t just sounding like a “potential” anymore ;)

  6. peroxidevixen says:

    Men are such horrid communicators, aren’t they? You said you wrote about sex…no juicy details? I’m crushed!

  7. 20forty says:

    Awww good. I’m glad it worked out like this! It’s interesting how our minds race to assume the worst isn’t it? I’m really happy your mind was wrong. :)

    lisaq

  8. SINgleGIRL says:

    Thank you all for your warm wishes. I am going to try to stay positive (see today’s post).
    -peroxidevixen,
    I just can’t bring myself to offer up the juicy details. I already feel rather shameless by the amount of sharing I do on this blog.