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Crisis Averted

OK, so I’m willing to admit that there never was a real crisis.  I only thought there was.  I was feeling vulnerable and sad and I let my imagination get the best of me. It happens.

But, you know, I wasn’t always like this.  I’m pretty sure I used be pretty mellow about this kind of stuff.   It might sound counterintuitive, but after years of dating I’m actually more likely to get stressed out about that kind of thing, now, than I used to be.  Because I’ve seen it all before.  The guy who’s sweet and considerate and treats me great.  Until one day he doesn’t.  Until one day he decides, for reasons that I will never understand, that he will stop being great.  And so I am forever on the lookout for it.  Kind of like the veteran cop who thinks everyone is a crook.

But so far I have no reason to believe that Mr. Potential is a crook (going with the metaphor for a second longer). He texted me goodnight and then good morning.  I was sitting in an office, waiting for a meeting to start when he texted me this morning and so I sent him a quick text back.  And then my meeting was cancelled.  I’d trekked all the way across town in the rain in a nice suit for a meeting that was cancelled 15 minutes after it was supposed to start.  I happened to be closer to Mr. Potential’s apt than mine and he frequently works from home, so I gave him a call.  I was in good spririts and figured that if he had 20 free minutes I could take him out for coffee.

He answered right away and asked me about my meeting and unfortunately he was working at a client’s this morning so we couldn’t have coffee. I told him he should go (not good to take calls when you’re with a client)  and as he was hanging up he asked if we could get together tomorrow night.  So that’s that. I said yes and he said he’d call later.

I assume it will be a pleasant, low call.  I’m assuming the rest of my week will be pleasant and low .  I’ve already created as much as I can personally deal with this week.  I don’t want anymore.

Oh and I’ve updated the .  I am so over the rain.  It’s Another Sunny Day, by Belle & Sebastian.

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7 to “Crisis Averted”

  1. Seth Simonds says:

    Good! I’m glad things are looking up on your rainy day.

    Thank goodness Mr. P is still showing signs of being a winner!


  2. recklessstudio says:

    See! I told you 😉

    I’m glad things are looking up for you. Perfect timing considering the weather and the weekend approaching.

    (way to come through, Mr. P)

  3. dategirl says:

    I’m glad things are looking up. It’s completely normal to feel that way, I’ve so been there! When I first started dating Match, we met through an online site as well. I canceled my account soon after meeting him, and he didn’t. I was hurt at first, but after two weeks he canceled his too. Give this guy time-don’t sentence him before his committed the crime (I’ve done that too.) All too easy to blame the guy you’re with for the past wrongs of others.

  4. SINgleGIRL says:

    -dategirl said it, I was blaming the guy I’m with for the past wrongs of others. I need to be more mindful not to do that. Thank you all (Seth and recklessstudio, always) for your comments.

  5. sabs says:

    glad things are looking up! that’s a great song too. well wishes from semi-sunny SF!

  6. WiiAdam says:

    Yep! It’s raining Sunshine here too!
    (Long Island….and, the wind is blowin’!)

    I think Mr P is going to be a good snuggle on Christmas Eve…
    …and, then some. (Go ahead, tell me I’m wrong…bet you can’t:)


  7. peachofatl says:

    Just checked out your site. Seems we are going through some of the same dating drama. Best of luck to you!