I promise to write more later about all of this.
The bad dater has earned a new nickname. He is now Mr. Potential. He gave me a really sweet kiss at my stoop (that’s what we call the steps to our buildings here in the Big Apple) as we said goodnight on Sunday. He then followed that up with an concrete invitation via email for something last night (which I turned down, other plans) and then another sweet email last night. The guy’s got definite potential.
In blogging news, I don’t know but I think I royally stepped in it. Whatever I write in this blog, it’s about ME. I am writing openly and as honestly as I feel comfortable doing about my personal thoughts and experiences. I think that there are a lot of women who are like me and a lot of women who aren’t. I know that my dating experiences as a 38 year old women in NYC are completely different than those of a younger woman in the midwest or in a different city/different country.
So when I say I like the men in my life to act and react a certain way, I think it’s kind of hysterical to hear back that my readers think it’s because, of course, ALL women are like that and we have a biological necessity to want certain things. I think that’s a load of crap. Seriously. We are animals. Sure. And biology plays a big role in our wants and desires in terms of sex and the like. But if all we were were animals then you could also assume that I would have a burning desire to reproduce (as a 38 yr old childless women) and am sizing up each guy I meet as a possible father for my future children. And well, that ain’t true.
I guess what I’m saying in this very stream of consciousness post because I have no time for this now way is that, please people, take this all with a grain of salt. I am one woman. My needs and wants are my own. I want what I want because of who I am – the sum of my biology and my experiences. I speak for no one but myself.
Oh, and I have some very interesting new guys on the horizon. Not that I’m not excited about the potential showed by the Freelancer and Mr. Potential but it’s nice to have lots of options.
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