Zandria, over at Blogher, wrote a great post yesterday called, “Am I Writing A Post About Break-Ups? Really?”. I read the post quickly yesterday and enjoyed it. I loved her fresh, “you loved and lost and now it’s time to move on – no drama” tone. It’s the attitude I strive to have (and know that sometimes I fail miserably).
I returned to the post today to read the comments and noticed one of the articles that she provided a link for. I usually don’t bother reading the yahoo personals articles, especially the ones called Dating 101, but I couldn’t help myself as this one was about why “guys dumped women they dig”. Anyway, I liked the article.
The first part talks about how for guys it really is a lot about timing. “Single women get serious when they meet the right man. Single men get serious with whomever we happen to be dating when we’re finally to settle down.” Now I know this is a generalization and that all generalizations are bad and dangerous in their own way. However, I also think there’s something to it. And I guess I’ve suspected it for a while. It’s why I’m so cautious with guys right now. I’m looking for someone who’s finally ready to settle to down, because that’s what I want to do, too. I don’t think I can handle another guy telling me how much I mean to him but that he’s not ready.
My date tonight with Bachelor #2 got rescheduled, again. This time it was my fault. Now we’re planning to meet W night. I’ve got another tentative first date tomorrow night and a few other guys in the hopper still. Oh, and it looks like I’ll be seeing the TALL man again on Friday night.
Tags: breakups, Dating update, LTR