I’m finally back in town, completely (physically and mentally, 7 days a week). It seems like it’s been forever. I’ve started to reschedule some of those dates I had to scratch, though not all of them. The time away has made me rethink some of the guys. They don’t all seem as appealing as they did before.
In preparation for the first few dates (I know, I’m making it sound like I haven’t been on a date in months, instead of 2 and 1/2 weeks) I’ve been thinking a lot about how to be more successful with this whole dating/relationship thing. Really, it’s amazing I’m not better at it. I’ve had a lot of trial and error and in general I’m pretty good at learning from my mistakes. I think my issue here is that I learn the lessons without putting them into practice.
Thinking back to my Rules, Schmules post, I know that there is a risk of having sex with a guy too soon. Good sex will cause me to turn a blind eye to all kinds of faults and issues. And since I believe that people don’t change (see my last post, Scorpions) then I’ve got to avoid getting attached to someone until I figure out whether or not I can live with him, really live with him, as is. Can we work together, do we compliment each other or will we inevitably drive each other crazy?
And then of course there’s the fact that it’s now been months since I’ve gotten laid. I’m like a timebomb waiting to go off. How am I supposed to exercise good judgment under these conditions?
This is the shit I think about when I’m not dating.
Tags: good sex, judgment, rules, sex