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Forgettable? Me?

For the second time in as many years, I’ve received an introductory message from a man I’ve already gone out with.  That’s right, these are men I met online, exchanged several messages with, and then went out on a date with. Neither date was fabulous, neither was remarkably bad. Just your typical, waste of time, first dates. In each case I was contacted by the guy a second time some year to two years (I honestly can’t remember how long it’s been in this recent case, but I know it hasn’t been more than two years) later, him thinking it was the first contact.

I don’t know how I should feel about this.  I guess it would be really conceited of me to be insulted.  I’m no better or more special than anyone else.  I don’t know how much these guys date. Maybe they date even more than me. It can be hard to remember so many women, I guess.
The thing is, I’d never make that mistake. I remember every one of them. Each date.  Every good date and every bad date and every typical, waste of time, first date.  I even remember most of the men I’ve ever exchanged emails with, though after a few years and a picture change or two on their profile I might let a few slip my mind (I recently winked at someone and received a “nice to hear from you again” message back.  I was mortified.  I didn’t remember him.).
These guys met me and then forgot all about me.  Or didn’t recognize me in my new pics. Maybe I shouldn’t feel anything about it at all.  Maybe it’s just a hint that I’ve been dating too long.  I’m in reruns.


2 to “Forgettable? Me?”

  1. cjw666 says:

    Perhaps it’s just that you have a better memory than these men. Heck, maybe you have a better EVERYTHING than these men. Stop worrying about it and enjoy yourself. Remember the three “Fs” the first and last are Find ’em and Forget ’em. I’ll leave you to figure out the middle one 😉

  2. Bombchell says:

    lol @ reruns. maybe its time to move dating cites or cities. lol Im joking. hmm do you also remember their names, or just a rough idea of what they look like. perhaps you looked different etc so they forgot, lol whats the range of dates you have a month?