Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

About Me

This is my old “About Me”.  I didn’t want to delete it or the comments that were left on that page on my old blogsite.

I’m a 39 yr old single girl in who dates a lot. That’s right, you read correctly, a 39-yr old single GIRL.

When I was younger, in my early 20s, I was always so careful to say “woman” and to correct any man who was foolish enough to call me a girl. But the truth is, there’s a part of me that equates being single with “girl”. Like there’s something about the very nature of my single-ness that precludes me from being a full adult.  Whatever, that’s my issue.

I so that I can share my honest thoughts and stories about (and if I’m lucky, relationships – oh please, let me find one of those soon and I promise to work hard and not fuck it up).

I spent some time looking at other sites before I started this one.  And sure enough, there are a lot of dating blogs out there.  A lot.  There are funny dating blogs and sexually explicit blogs, and lots of blogs that dole out advice.  But that all seems kinda easy to me.  Easy and false.   The real story of dating is full of ups and downs and sudden surprises (of both the pleasant and unpleasant variety).

So here I am.  I don’t know a damn thing. I’m not a dating expert or anything close to one. I don’t give advice. I tell stories. And I promise to tell you the truth, to not sugar-coat it, and to be occasionally amusing. I’m guessing there are folks out there that’ll be able to relate.

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31 to “About Me”

  1. Morgan A. says:


    You and I have the same blog. Its really weird. Except mine is about ten years younger than yours – its for the 20 something year old single ladies out there. But yeah, I just want to say that i dig your blog, its clever, i’m a fan… aaand i posted to a link to it on mine. I hope you dont mind, i just think that my readers would enjoy blog very much. I’m 24, born and raised in downtown in Montreal, and I pretty much write about what you do, just with younger, prissier guys lol (we have that whole french thing going on here). Anyways, check mine out if you have the time, and keep up the good work.

    take care,


  2. SINgleGIRL says:

    -Morgan A
    Welcome to the blog. I’m so glad you found me. I just checked your blog out and I love it. I will be visiting often.

  3. Rozane says:

    I Came across your blog and its truly impressive. It really seems that you did take a lot of time to get it on .i just wanted to know if you did rather be interested in link exchange with my site Please do let me know…..

  4. MichaelVInNYC says:

    Simone, this blog my new secret weapon!

    I’m a 31-year-old guy who moved to NYC within the last year. Of the many things that make this city amazing, none are as breathtaking as the ladies here – beautiful, witty, self-sufficient, sophisticated…!

    I’ve never really considered myself very good at meeting or going out with girls, but failing to explore the dating opportunities here would be like calorie-counting at a five-star gourmet buffet, or going to Cancun and spending the whole trip in the hotel room watching HBO. It would be both a tragedy and a crime.

    That’s why this blog is a gold mine for me! I see everything from practical ideas about where exactly to take a girl on a date, to general advice about how to avoid coming off like a douchebag or a creep. You’re practically my Cyrano de Bergerac!

    Welcome to my browser’s “Favorites” list, and please keep up the great work!

  5. Simone Grant says:

    That’s just the nicest thing someone’s said about me/this blog in ages. Thanks so much. And welcome to the blog. And to the city!

  6. Fitnut says:

    I’m a single almost 30 year-old and I just came across your blog. Very interesting :) I’ve really enjoyed reading it.

  7. tequilashot says:

    Hi Simone,

    I chanced upon your blog and decided to follow you. Your posts are interesting, thought-provoking and I can relate to them well. Although I’m just 17, I’ve had 2 memorable relationships. They didn’t last very long of course, but I suppose I see “love” differently as people of my age. I am a hopeless romantic, I can’t help but to acknowledge that fact.

    Your entries teach me a lot of lessons, lessons in which some I will never learn unless I experience it personally. I really like them. They are like shortcuts to my future relationships. I appreciate your posts.

    I hope you find “the one” for you soon, you’re an amazing girl you know that? 😉

    Take care and good luck,

  8. Simone Grant says:

    Thank you so much for the lovely comment (one of the nicest things anyone has said to me in ages). You seem to be pretty damn amazing, yourself.

  9. TWBuddha says:

    You have a great blog. I stumbled across it just recently, but very nice.

  10. PursuitOfPassion says:

    I recently came across your blog and I’ve since commented on a couple of your posts. I just wanted to introduce myself and let you know that I just LOVE your insight. I’ve been considering writing a blog (since I currently use Facebook for that in the notes section) and your blog is very inspiring. Well done!

  11. X caliber says:

    Hi SINglegirl,
    I happened upon your blog after reading your article “Worth Every Penny” at Eight Million Stories. How I happened upon the Eight Million Stories website is another story.
    Like chemistry in a relationship, if the trace elements to appreciate Jazz aren’t present, you’re knocking your head against a brick wall. One either feels the syncopation of jazz-eighths as a blend of flavors or a conflicted irritation. That’s why people like jazz or they don’t, there isn’t much in between. Do you favor only instrumentalists, vocalists, or the best of both worlds … at the same time? Do names like Pat Metheny, Tom Scott, Candy Dulfer, or Rickie Lee Jones ring any bells? Who have you heard at Dizzy’s?
    You sound like a cool chi—woma—girl to hang with ?-)

  12. My Kafkaesque Life says:

    Blogs like yours are a treasure. It’s better you have few good followers than a whole lot of people who don’t really get what you wanna say… That’s why I will just shhhh… :)

  13. Abi Tight says:

    Hi Simone

    London-based Brit girl with blog here. I love your NYC musings and think you might like mine too. Anyway would love to swap mentions in any way you deem fit if you like The Butterfly Diaries

    This diary of a divorced model turned pole dancing reiki practitioner will make you laugh, cry and probably reach for the bottle…

    Please pop by and leave a comment


  14. Mikko Kemppe - Relationship Coach says:

    I join the other above! This is a great blog. It always takes more courage to share the honest truth! Will be coming back soon!!

  15. LittleMissAngry says:

    Hi Simone, I’ve become a fan!

    I think its brave and wonderful that you write about being single so honestly; giving it to us straight and with a touch humour. I’m from a completely different part of the world (but also in a city) and though we are probably different in age (I just turned 30), and culture (traditional asian upbringing), I can totally relate to your entries. Guess the dating scene doesn’t vary much whether in NY or Kuala Lumpur. Love it, love it, love it.

    I haven’t written in a long time for no real reason. But reading your blog has inspired me to start again. Just wanted to say thanks and keep on keeping in real :) xx


  16. Simone Grant says:

    Wow, it’s been a while since I’ve dropped by here. Thank you everyone for your encouragement and support. I hope you’ve taken a couple of minutes to add me on Facebook and/or Twitter so that you can stay up to date with everything that’s going on with me and the blog.

  17. renrexx says:

    I love the blog. I’ve already subscribed to get updates in my inbox as i’m getting my morning coffee… er…… tea with milk….. :)

  18. Simone Grant says:

    Thanks so very much. I’ll look forward to more of your comments.

  19. Swt8ngl says:

    Can I just say that I love your blog! And thank you so much for commenting on my small seemingly meaningless blog,! I immediately came to your blog and said, “YAY, I’m not the only one who feels the way that I do!” You are candid and honest! I think that these blogs are such a wonderful way for women to interact and talk about men in a way that allows us to be completely honest, probably because we can be as anonymous as we choose to be. Keep writing, and I will keep reading!

  20. Simone Grant says:

    Thanks so much. I’m happy to hear you were able to relate. Hope to see more of your comments.

  21. dmfontana says:

    Simone –

    Yours is a great blog.. full of honesty and insight. I look forward to more

  22. Drew G says:


    Awesome blog !! Great stuff. If you would ever considering working with Eden Fantasys please email me anytime. Otherwise keep up the great work and I look froward to reading more.

  23. A.S. Thomas says:

    Hi Simone,

    I arrived to your blog by chance. I love your honesty and naturalness. I myself write about dating too, but in a different kind of way. Sincerity and freedom to be and express yourself are keywords for me as well.

    I’ll read you around :).

    A.S. Thomas

  24. Miss Lee Dates says:

    Hi Simone,

    I’ve found my twin! (Well I have one of those already, but you’re a metaphorical twin at least). I am also a 39 single gal from Sydney Australia. Like you, I date a lot, but only this year and only since I have changed the way I looked at dating. Sydney is nothing like NYC – guys just never ask you out. Shy bastards!! I don’t preach about different dating etiquette, but stumble through the process and share it with my readers. Some weeks I love it and some weeks I’m really over it. I started with a Dating Challenge. My friend made me date 10 guys in 6 months, but I wasn’t allowed to ask anyone out. Probably not difficult in NYC, but that’s almost unheard of here. I decided to write about it to keep me focussed. Now that I’ve finished the challenge, I’ve had more dates than ever. Just when you stop trying hey?

    Anyway, I’ve added you to my favourites, so I’m looking forward to comparing our progress from across the shores. Best of luck with your search and keep up the great material. I love it.

    Miss Lee.

  25. TaraKits says:

    I like your blog–down to earth and not too flashy–real, like you said. I just started a web site/company partially based on my own single-girl-living-in-NYC lifestyle (I’m just two small years younger than you so I know I’m in good company). I think you might get a kick out of it because, speaking of real, my company sells a break-up kit and my site has a related break-up/dating blog (because as single girls, we know about break-ups). Check it out! (

  26. sassanaugh says:

    I just stumbled onto your blog. I am glad I did, dating issues are not ( i see) just limited to age groups, male or female, or demographics, It can strike and effect anyone. It is comforting to know you are not alone in this crazy dating world. I am older and believe I am better for it. I left the nonsense of my 20,30, 40, and so on, only to find a whole new set of issues when dating in the golden years. Keep up the good work, I will keep reading.

  27. Simone Grant says:

    Wow, it’s been a while since I’ve been over to this page. Welcome sassanaugh, TaraKits, Miss Lee Dates, A.S. Thomas, Drew G and also dmfontana.

  28. icezeliion says:


  29. Simone Grant says:

    Um, not exactly sure why you posted that comment here? Anyway, I’ll try to respond as best I can. In the online dating world people are pretty damn overt about what they want. No guessing required.

    I think that’s what you were asking.

  30. boyfriendcalc says:

    hi simone, been following your blog and tweets for awhile, love it all, your writing is awesome… I’d love for you to check out this dating iPhone app I just created…… here’s a promo code for a freebee: LNAN97PEL7TX… I’ve had great response from users and other dating bloggers such as yourself… ciao & keep up the great work… gregory

  31. Sandy says:

    At your age it does not matter, for he who seeks the love can not be really old.
    I found my new love at 36 Is that too old?
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